Anger is an emotion that is felt from being hurt. There are different intensities of anger as the scale increase or decrease dependant upon the person feeling it and the situation of what it has arisen from. I am not just talking about pet annoyances that may a play factor in our of lives. But an actual emotion that derived from someone who has had malicious intent or perhaps even not.
The emotion anger can be very destructive if used in the wrong way. There are health impacts like high blood pressure, increase in cortisol levels, affects interpersonal skills and irrational decisions that may even led to violence. When you are feeling anger on a regular basis it also means that things are not good at home and there could even be a deeper cause for why you feeling this so often.
This is how Anger, Thoughts, & Social Behavior work:
· Pain alone is not enough to cause anger. Anger occurs when pain is combined with some anger-triggering thought.
· Thoughts that can trigger anger include personal assessments, assumptions, evaluations, orinterpretations of situations that makes people think that someone else is attempting (consciously or not) to hurt them.
In this sense, anger is a social emotion; You always have a target that your anger is directed against (even if that target is yourself). Feelings of pain, combined with anger-triggering thoughts motivate you to take action, face threats and defend yourself by striking out against the target you think is causing you pain. This is of course something you do not want to do; strike out because you are feeling emotional from a pain that can be resolved in other ways.
Many people will substitute anger with something else; thinking that the quick fix solution will help them to their conclusion. This is them really ignoring or creating a distraction to gloss over an emotion that really does require attention; as the emotions felt do require attention. Otherwise, the consequences felt will be far more detrimental than you can imagine.
The smoke screen created from the emotions of righteousness, power and even moral superiority because of the way you are feel. Is not necessarily true because underneath it all you are probably feeling vulnerable, scared and afraid to get hurt. The satisfaction you will receive when you are able to feel anger than tackle it will allow you to feel not so helpless but much more in control. By carrying this out you will also be transforming your unconscious mind creating a habit that will allow positive growth.
· Anger makes you distracted from the truth of the pain
· Pain is the root cause of why you feel angry
· It is okay to feel vulnerable
· The pain you feel will not disappear automatically you will need to work at it
· There will be social and health implications
Human beings are made to feel emotions like anger, fear, jealousy, disappointment and many other emotions. I can help you in looking at transformational coaching solutions that would be tailored to your needs.